We are all born with natural intelligence’s which we can connect to and grow with. We are not alone in our body. Our 5 main intelligence’s, which I call 5i’s, are those inborn intelligent pillars that guide us to finding balance, direction and drive. If we picture the ocean to be the irrational emotive side of ourselves, a windsurf would be the rational structure that allows us to experience the ocean (as we are being supported).
Life is a spiral of experiences. It can spiral up and down. When it doesn’t flow well it will feel like a maddening loop. A loop of no hope, no matter what is being changed it will feel the same.
You see, life is a set of variables. The main two variables are the external environment (i.e. the weather or people’s actions) which unlikely we can control. And the internal environment where we can monitor how we perceive things and decide how to react. We know that. What we lack, due to our poor education system, is the know-how. The steps to make the change. The different tools to change those toxic variables and walk this world without the baggage. Maybe a tiny rucksack for the essentials.
It’s the study of the self. Observing the elephant in the room. Noticing those beliefs, actions and behaviours so ingrained in us that we have taken them for granted. We overlook them. We see straight through them, like standing directly in front of a well-polished glass door. Others can see clearly our floors while we often cannot.
To see more of ourselves, and therefore to see which behaviours are supporting our growth from those that are limiting it, we can use our inborn intelligence’s. No matter of age, gender, cultural or ethnic background, we all share these same intelligent qualities. We are all born with these 5 main intelligence’s which I call the 5i’s and use during my Life Coaching Sessions.
We all born with these 5 intelligences.
Support is fundamental to form a positive outlook towards events. To be in the present moment and to decide how and to what degree do we want to experience it. Just like any physical activity. When we learn how to do something, like swimming we shift our focus from ‘not drowning’ to on ‘how to experience what I know’. Swimming to relax, to get fit, to play, to explore, to challenge oneself and so on.
Connecting to our 5i’s is like learning to live with 5 other house mates. When there’s poor communication between our conscious self and our 5i’s, there will some sort of conflict and hostility. When communication is fluid, it will feel like having our own superhero team. It allows us to learn how to ‘swim’ in ourselves and around any type of external variables.
The MIND - the story teller machine which constructs our current reality.
Great at solving problems and at being the number one most annoying fictional director of the century. Dishing out soap operas at 3am and conspiracy theories during lunchtime. With fantastic mental elasticity and versatile creativity, this cigarette and coffee driven monkey mind can be turned to solve actual problems. Like, playing chess, understanding black holes or deciding what pizza toppings to have.
It’s like a supercomputer, but a bit lazy. It uses data to get results. However, if some data is missing, it tends to fabricate its own. To get the result it is used to and to bring evidence for its in-house theories. In the science world, it’s called cherry-picking.
A useful strategy is to observe our habitual patterns, creating a database of who we are and how we act in the present moment inhibited by negatively charged emotions. Against who and how we act when drawn into our emotional storm. The termed triggered is defined by a behavioral change – the way we view, feel, and think – during an instant that does not match how we would generally behave.
Since the mind is like a supercomputer, we can utilise this inborn intelligence to observe these types of discrepancies. Not only that. We can use it to observe, collect, and evaluate data from our other intelligence. The more data it can process from various perspectives the more impartial the result is going to be. Our thoughts and day-dreams are constantly showing us what type of belief we are running on, therefore providing data for us to evaluate.
Speaking about evaluation, at times it is useful to know the mechanics of things. The mind is a pretty complex organ. Divided into various lobes that specialise in quite a number of essential functions. The Prefrontal Cortex, the seat of our rationality, has a huge influence over our decision making, thinking ability, data sorting, personality, and the capacity to empathise. Our Limbic System on the other hand, is the free-flowing ocean of emotions, regulates our behaviours, sensations, movements and our adrenal glands (we’ll go a bit deeper in the Breath section). This system has been key to our evolutionary ascent as it allows us to allocate meaning to our behavioural doings and to establish a relationship with our Ego: needs, desires and aspirations.
The most amazing thing is that when we practice meditation, we can access (or hack into) both of these systems. Meaning that we can control or better learn how to be in a relationship with our biological self. On a more technical level, it accesses two of the five brain wave frequencies: Alpha and Theta. The former, also known as the wakeful rest state, connects the conscious thought (Prefrontal Cortex) to the subconscious thinking (thought to be in the Hippocampus, that forms part of the Limbic System). Theta being the state of relaxed attention, present in dreams and day-dreams, connect us to our deeply rooted feelings and emotional memories. From these two frequencies, we can fine-tune our belief system. Release trauma, implement new habits, and travel both inwards and outwards.
Our mind is a plastic, dynamic, and playful tool, while meditation is the key to access it. And tools, work with both external and internal variables. A hammer is a good tool for the nail variable, but a poor one to fix windows. Unless we are a cartoon character who can define the laws of physics.
Establishing a connection between our conscious-self and our mind intelligence, which also oversees the other four intelligence’s, is like turning on our GPS on google maps. For the map to accurately show our location it requires the connection of multiple satellites. For us to accurately know our behavioural and emotional ‘location’ we need the connection of our other intelligence’s. Storing its data to create a powerful map that can oversee our macro and micro landscape. Juxtaposing our internal variables from the external ones. Creating a pretty friendly ‘find my location’ function. A powerful navigational and self-awareness tool which allows us to generate positively charged experiences in our lives.
Exercises: Observe your thoughts, day-dreams and dreams. Maybe keep a journal about it. Look for emotive patterns across them. Focus more on how you feel rather than dwelling on what you visually experience.
Beliefs can hold us back. Especially when we believe we have none. When we feel stuck, usually it’s because we are lacking a winder set of tools at our disposal. We might feel we have tried everything in our power. This is true if we maintain the belief that our life is simple like this. That we cannot change our circumstances on a physical, emotional, or financial level. The mind shapes the reality that our conscious-self sees. Meaning that if we let the mind play its bias findings it will only reinforce the unwanted behaviour in a systematic way. Rewiring our subconscious behaviour will change how we perceive reality and therefore how we act in our world (internal and external).
The BREATH - the connection to our emotional state in the moment.
Since breath is the only vehicle to feed our entire organism with life (aka oxygen), when we control its intake we are indirectly controlling our nervous-system. If we think of O₂ as fuel for our intelligence’s, the faster the breath the more fuel our being will have. The slower the breath, the more our biological being will priorities where the fuel is needed the most. Entering a momentary state of self preservation. In so doing we exit the juggling bananza of the mind and reconnect with the present moment.
Entering a state which Yogi call Dharana. Single mind focus. The present moment. Where we can sit and connect to our emotional state. Reflecting on our sensations. Allowing to experience the pause before the action. The art of Meditation and Mindfulness.
The more the mind focuses on the breath, the more it has to stay from “up there” to “down here”. If we look at a body as a skyscraper, the last floor would be the mind. From up there, it’s hard to see and therefore relate to the ant-looking people down below. There is an element of emotional detachment. The perspective is not personal. We fail to see what’s happening on the street. Or for that matter connect to our senses to feel the mood, or to smell the air or even to hear its pulse.
The breath acts like an elevator. Connecting top floor to bottom floor.
It moves muscles, tissues, bones and organs on a daily basis. When we decide to direct the breath to a specific area we can also release hormones. Which are responsible for our emotions, toxins and energy levels.
Our adrenal glands (as the image shows) is the main gland responsible for the production of hormones and sits between the lungs and the stomach. This is why belly breathing is both extremely relaxing and envigorating.
To stimulate them, inhale into the belly and like a wave expand into the lower chamber of the lungs. Exhaling pull the belly button into your spine and up towards the sternum. Engage the obliques and the rectus abdominal to fully empty the lower lungs and compress the glands. Judge of how strong you want to squeeze the muscles as it can cause nausea, muscle inflammation and if you squeeze to hard you could bruise your organs.
With each focused breath that we take the more we become attuned to the present moment. And generally in the present moment, there is nothing to fear. When we operate from a negatively charged emotional, we oversee our potential. By constricting our breath, like ujjayi breathing, and slowing down its pace we can feel into our various senses. Perceiving more of the environment around us. Away from the knee jerk reactions and mind distractions. We can feel how our intelligence actually feel.
Exercise: ① Softly breathe from the belly through your nose (if possible). ② Observe your surroundings without moving your body or head. ③ Listen to the 10 things that make you feel alive and happy.
In this meditative-like state we can venture inwards. Tuning into our intuition and calmly processing negatively charge emotions. Finding creative ways out of conflict. Release toxins, revitalise cells and tune into our emotions.
Once we remove the mind from the ‘figuring it all out’ process, we can listen to what our intelligence already know. Live calmer, happier, stronger and more focused lives.
The EMOTIONS - the compass for, and, to fulfil our needs and desires.
If the mind showed us where we currently are, our emotions show us where we are headed towards. Emotions feed our thoughts – and therefore resonate in words and other forms of expression – which have an effect on our auto-regulatory system. Emotions act like animals. If we do not feed them they die, and therefore a part of us goes numb and disconnects. When they scream for our attention we tend to either start a shouting competition or we surrender in defeat. To survive, when we have starved their needs, they go on a hunger frenzy lashing out and biting at anything to fill themselves up.
Connecting to our Emotional Intelligence will avoid these drastic swings. This means, that if we pay attention to our thought and daydreams they will reveal our deepest needs or desires. Because, under every belief system there’s an emotional engine. Emotions are the driving force of our experiential self. Without them, we would not find any meaning to persevere through our life routine. We probably would do the essentials. Eat, sleep and reproduce. Whether we like it or not, emotions have taken humans on a whole new level of experiencing life.
The root of all “problems” lies here. However, to get here is not always a simple one-track road. Emotions weave themselves in all aspects of who we are, forming our identity and providing vital energy for our biological body. Hence why scientists attribute the Limbic System as the key reason for our evolutionary success. And this is why tackling emotions head-on can be extremely counterproductive. Like undoing a very tight knot.
Since emotions are not physical or sensory things (that we can see, touch, taste, or smell) they require a physical body to contain them so to express them. In their natural state, they carry no positive o negative charge. They gain a charge when living conscious being (mainly) subconscious decided to hold a charge. A feeling of rejection (negative charge) or of attraction (positive charge). The reason why most times we feel at peace walking in nature is because it’s an emotionally neutral external variable. Without external distractions, our attention can fall back onto our internal world. The environments that we choose to be in can help us focus inwards. Practices like Feng Shui and Minimalism help shift stagnation and encourage positive flow of sensations. Our external space can act as a supportive container for us when we feel down. In a similar way as in a relationship, spending time with our external space will return the emotion that we put in it when we needed the most.
What we see and consider positively charged around us, especially in nature because it’s emotional neutral, is a reflection of what already lives inside of ourselves. As we are the ones projecting that feeling onto it. This would suggest that emotions act like a soluble. Where our biological environment (the body) forms one solution, the natural environment forms the other. The environment that holds the lowest emotional concentration will be absorbed by the environment which holds the highest emotional concentration until both environments reach an equal emotional concentration level. In other words, emotions flow between environments via osmosis. This also works between people and other animals.
Emotions are also very similar to electricity. They have presence and motion to which we respond to. Allowing emotions to be both static and current energies. Which means they also hold a magnetic field. The stronger the emotional charge the stronger the push or pull when interacting with environments around them.
The current emotion are the ones that come and go, they are our daily feelings. With the passing of time, whatever we felt that day will fade away into a nondescriptive accumulation of experiences. Stored like a website cache in our mind. That can be easily deleted without removing any meaningful or vital information. If stored for too long they will inevitably slow us down. The reason for that being is because they are meant to be felt and left.
Static emotions happen when our emotional charge is greater than our average current charge. Capturing the emotional spike like a GIF in our mind. A segment of time looping in our biological being affecting our conscious ability to make choices, both for the better and the worst. It shakes, unable to move on as we are holding on to it. This is where trauma is usually stored. By noticing physical pain, tension, or stiffness they can easily identify across the body. In the mind we see it when strong feelings of aversions or self-limitation arise.
Fear = Pain
Pain = Anger/Numbness
Exercises: Re-writing facts. ① Write down an event that you can’t shake off. How has that made you feel? Take as much time as you need. ② When you’re done, read it and as you do cross out the sentences that are emotionally charged. ③ Re-write it without the judgement, victim tone, anger, frustration, etc. ④ Connect to your breath, and if you feel discomfort breath it out. Read the story again and tune into your 5i’s to observe what emotional need were you seeking in your behaviour.
We all have a purpose in this life to fulfil. We are all on a voyage. Some, jump ship (when they believe it’s not meant for them) others take control over a situation. If you where a captain of a ship in the middle of a storm, what would you do? The sailors act accordingly to your belief system. What do you think they should do? The captain is your mind (with evaluated data) and the sailors are your actions in this world. Connect to your captain and control the course of sail. Every thought generated by our needs will push us to do something, even if that something is doing nothing.
The BELLY - the container for our energy levels and overall happiness.
The first time we ever experience an emotion was in the womb of our mother. Fed through our umbilical cord we digested her emotions. In those 9 months, we learned about the external world through our mother’s emotional response. Before we learnt to think or walk we learnt to feel. Yet most of life we walk and think without feeling into our emotions.
I think, it’s because of this biological mechanisms of incubation that enables static emotions to reside primarily in the belly intelligence. There obviously other parts of the physical body that stores different types of emotions. Both positive and negative. Our organs are one of them. Later on, we will look at why they are also stored in our tissues and bones.
Emotions hold a charge. If they are positively charged they will give us energy. If they are negatively charged they will drain us. And since emotions primarily sit in the belly it is the seat of our energy power. It’s our Dan Tian, our body’s centre of gravity. Our warrior energy. It’s our Qi, our life force energy. The gate to the spirit. Our personal power. The centre of our willpower, our Solar Plexus Chakra. Our inner strength. The encapsulation of life in the physical form. Our life started from within the belly and now we store our own life in it, and potential future life as well (if you just so happen to be a woman that is).
In an incredibly intelligent and complex way, our body not only created organs to regulate, clean, and dispose of toxic biological waste but also emotional waste. This comes to no surprise why the western human suffers greatly from a leaky gut, kidney fatigue, and other guts related deficiencies or illnesses. Since the digestive organs process food and emotions almost indistinguishably one from the other, we can understand why there’s such a strong cultural link between food and emotions. Unless we pay much-needed attention to how we feel, learning to differentiate our hunger levels from our emotional pain. We can unintentionally emotionally eat the weigh of our body.
Comfort-eating is not a bad thing in itself. It simply an overly abused tool that helps us bring our energy and emotional levels back up. A great way to learn whether we are using or abusing this tool is by providing alternative data to our mind. By that, I mean, changing our diet intake or trying different fast for as little as a few days. Because our gut flora needs time to adapt, to collect the best data it is recommended to prolong the change for at least two weeks. During a fast: intermitted fasting, fruit fast, juice fast, water fast, urine fast, no food or water fast. We create the space for our belly to experience essentially another environment. It’s like us, and by us I mean the biological body and conscious-self, going to visit a new environment. As we learn about and adapt to a new language and culture so does our belly. When we return to our usual eating habits we can recall how our 5i’s behaved during the diet change or fast. Food forms part of our identity and can change our behavior.
This vital energy is the fuel that enables us to be present and to be focused. To motivate ourselves and to carry out our needs and desires with the skills at our disposal. Learning how our belly intelligence behaves when exposed to various dietary and physical circumstances. Helps us not only maintain our energy levels up but also defend ourselves from undigestable events. Words are somatic, meaning they can induce a physical and therefore an emotional response within us. When the belly feels it’s under attack (biologically, emotionally, or physically), unlike any other part of the body, it redirects all the energy that it sends across the body back to itself. In so doing zapping our ability to react or to rationally respond. A full belly tends to have a greater capacity to empathises with others rather than an empty one. Ever experienced being hangry?
Exercise: How does food make me feel? ① Repeat 30 times thank you in what ever and in as many languages you connet to ② Express what you are thankful for and why are you greatful to have food ③ Let your first bite be in presnece, embodieing what you just expressed. Feeling into your sensations.
Whenver we feel we get snatch out of ourselves by irrational emotions, we breathe ourselves back into the present self. Knowing a bit more about the belly intelligence might bring a deeper connection to the concept of belly breathing.
The BODY - the physical feedback of our overall wellbeing and reflection of our action in the physical environment.
The body represents the overall health of our biological body. It’s the gateway between the inner environment and the external environment. Acting as its own being and as a messenger between the two states of reality. The subjective inner reality and the external objective one. The body holds and moves not only biological mass but also energetic and emotional mass. It constantly feeds our mind with feedback like a massive broadcast antenna. When we move the body, we are moving the space around us. When we are still with the body, we are moving the space within us
There is no hierarchy in this system. No intelligence is more important than the other. In fact, they are all connected and affecting each other in a symbiotic way. The key part of it is, once we learn how to communicate with all of them we can actively engage one to boost the others.
If we do not have our health we have nothing. Clearly that’s not true, however, there is truth in it. Whenever we fall ill or injure ourselves we notice how big a role our body has across our whole wellbeing. When our body is not in pain we feel we have more energy. As the Roman poet Giovanale (Juvenal) wrote in his Satire X “Orandum est ut sit mens sana in corpore sano”. “You should pray for a healthy mind in a healthy body”. To interact in this world we need a way of converting emotions into expression. To do that we need a mind to interpret how we feel into an action. And we need a body to carry out the actions. This is one of the biggest reason why in many philosophies there’s a strong link between mind and body.
Tension in the body is greatly linked to our mind, to our belief system and to the stories we tell ourselves. Because words are somatic, and our mind narrates usually with words it triggers our nervous system. Our muscles cannot distinguish between mind fiction and reality. Therefore when our mind is worried or fearful, our cells will inform the appropriate parts of the physical self what to engage to defends itself. If the story that we play is momentary, it won’t leave a mark on the body. However, if the story is played in a loop, ingrained into a mantra-like belief, it will start to shape our body. So, from emotions, to words (emotional syntax), to beliefs (emotional narrative), to body (emotional expression); another good reason why it is wise to monitor our thought. Just as emotions can effect our body, moving the body can effect our emotions. Tracing back from emotional expression, to the mind narrative, locating the key words down to the core emotion.
Exercise: Discharging emotions:
-> Angry/restless = high intensive workout (belly chest area i.e. crunches, Sun Sal’s modification)
-> Worried = gentle upper body opening (i.e. spinal twists, isometric movements, my video)
-> Shaken = gentle rocking and hugging movements (feeling held and stretching into hips)
-> Paralysed = breath work and shake legs and arms (do opposite action to the emotion, move)
-> Displaced = lie down face up arm or pillow over head with legs up the wall
-> Fearful = fear makes you cold, so use Fire breath to warm you up and use the body to show it can support you i.e. squats, high lunge, jumping.
The body has the capacity to shift static energy into current energy. The deeper the belief the more likely it will be that our emotions are embedded in either our tissues or bones. (I won’t go into cellular intelligence as that’s another fun can of worms). Checking-in with our body during the day and during exercise will help establish a two way relationship between mind and body. When we slow down and breath, entering a state of meditation, focusing on our physical sensation, it highlights the emotionally effected areas. Sending the mind in those areas of discomfort will engage it to play detective. Utilising the breath, we tune out from our external sensation to amplify our internal ones. Observing the connection between movement and our other intelligence’s will provide valuable information for our mind to write a few helpful strategies. Another thing we can do, similar to the one for the Belly, is to observe how the body reacts during certain movements: heat wise, sweat, cramps, pain, etc. This data will help discern between lack of training or emotional hookups. Wherever we sweat the most tends to be the spot of most emotional resistance. So, next time you practice movement listen to your body.
When the body is not in pain, it makes meditation a lot easier to accomplish as our mind has one less distraction. Meaning that we can deepen the connection with ourselves and heighten our sensory awareness. Attuning the connecting with our other intelligence’s which in turn will help us see and feel how to progress in our lives.
① What triggered you?
② How do you feel emotionally?
③ Blend your emotions up as much as you need!
④ Let the story sit in Empathy for a as long as you need.
⑤ Breath it out and distil facts from fiction.
⑥ How does it feel to down this strategy to satisfy your emotional need?
THIS IS MY EXPERIENCE.
A concept that I’ve been applying and refining since 2019.
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